The Big, Big Bang Theory

Our whole universe was in a hot dense state, then nearly 14 billion years ago expansion started wait…

That’s the wrong Big Bang Theory… I’m talking about the Big, Big Bang Theory. It goes something like this:

The easiest thing to ever do is eat 24 chicken nuggets rely on other people to make you happy. Most of you, including myself, would keep at least some of your happiness in others without even realising it. It’s in our family, our friends, our pets (all of mine is in my pets) – and in not one way is this a bad place to keep your little bubbles of happy. The problem occurs when you place all of your little bubbles into the one person, or in my case, into the wrong cat.

Depending on other people is a beautiful way of cheering yourself up – there are always those one or two friends you can call up and you know they will make you feel like sunshine when you’re blue. I’m still waiting for the day when I can call the home landline and have one of the animals answer me when I feel sad.

In saying how beautiful friendships are, I can’t exaggerate enough how important is to be aware of the ones that really matter. Personally experiencing what it is like to feel a very deep, bottom-of-the-ocean blue, you learn who matters. Friends who I haven’t spoken to for years call and ask if we want to watch sad movies and binge on chocolate. That’s my idea of someone that cares (Ollie, you’re the bomb).

My Big, Big Bang Theory is that out of all the 7 billion people in the universe, there is only one person (and maybe some pets) that you need to put all your happiness into – YOU. I would say it has taken approximately three years and seven months for me to understand the concept of my flourishing theory and 100% let myself accept it and be a part of it.

To be at the very pinnacle of bliss is something that I think few people get to experience. It would be a pleasure to live life ecstatically and with no regrets. But, I believe that only brave people can make brave decisions – and that alone is exhilarating. Maybe to be at the peak of your excellence, you need to be surrounded by the people you admire and love. Or maybe you need to stand at that peak alone, proving to yourself that you can be worthy and noble on your own two feet. I don’t think one person can be both, but the adventure in itself, trying to figure out which person you are, sounds pretty thrilling to me.

I read a post that I loved a few weeks ago, and have been using it as a daily mantra:

““I’m torn between ‘if it’s meant to be, it will be’ and ‘if you want it, go get it’.”
“How about, ‘if it’s meant to be, it’s up to me.””

One day, whether it is in 5 months or 5 years, I would like to think I will be one of those inspiring people that jumps out of bed of a morning and is full of positivity and excitement. Although that morning may not be today, it’s pretty wonderful to think that one day, it will be that morning and everything that is happening now will be a faint blur of a time that has since passed.

My advice to you, and to myself, is to remember that you will not always feel so dark blue. Maybe you won’t be bright yellow straight away, but slowly your dark blue will turn light, and gradually will become green, purple, orange – until you reach that ultimate peak of sunshine – and that ray of sunshine will be you.




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