I say as I post this online.
I tend not to give ‘life updates’ on here anymore. Sharing most details of my life on a public website of my own creation since before I was a teenager has been both a blessing and a curse. For starters, when attending family gatherings and that distant relative always says, “So, what are you up to? Are you studying? Do you work? I don’t see a ring on your finger yet.” I can simply say, “Just visit sincerelyeblog.com”. Okay, I don’t do that, but I do love sharing aspects of my life with you. On the other side of that, it can be terrifying. Not in a way that I’m nervous of what people think of me or where I’m at in my life (that boat has well and truly sailed), but with age, I tend to want my private life to stay exactly that – private.
One of the best things I did in the last few months was do a total social media follower detox. Usually when people do this, it’s unfollowing people who make you feel bad about yourself, actors you followed when you were obsessed with the Netflix show, or people that pop up on your feed and you don’t know how they got there in the first place. Well, I did the opposite. I went through the people who follow me on Instagram and removed just over 1,400 of them. Random business accounts, people who I wouldn’t know well enough to talk to in person, complete strangers who had followed me for who knows how long. I figured that if I saw the person on the street and weren’t comfortable enough to at least wave, then why do you have the inside scoop to my life on your phone every day?
Living in a small town, everyone knows each other’s business. Whether it be through mutual friends, family, colleagues, or social media. There is always someone who knows something about you and runs to the closest mountain to shout the news. It’s almost refreshing when I run into people on the street and they ask how I’m still enjoying the job I haven’t been at for three years. I say, “Oh, actually I’ve had a few jobs since that one”, and they’ll say, “What? I had no idea!” Well, distant acquaintance, I most likely didn’t text you the news, and how else would you know? I don’t see myself giving up social media completely (even though detoxing for a day is incredible), but living my life somewhat offline is the biggest luxury of all.
I’ll tell you this, my life isn’t exciting enough for you to talk about anyway – I work every day like most people, read and review books, stay home in my new Harry Potter Oodie, watch Prison Break and re-arrange my bookshelf on a weekly basis. And you know what, I couldn’t ask for anything better. Last time a distant family member asked me what I was doing with my life, I vaguely answered, “Oh, you know, just working – nothing too exciting”, and they said “Well that’s a bit sad”, and walked away. I was a little deflated for a moment, reflecting in hyper-speed whether my life was truly a disappointment. I quickly realised that I am happy, content and doing exactly what I want to be doing – isn’t that what matters the most?
If you don’t have it in you to stay off the socials for a day or two, I highly recommend scrolling through your followers and taking note of who’s there. Even if you don’t remove them and want to grow your numbers, that’s okay too – just take a look, because I think it’s important to be aware of who is seeing your content.
Stay safe out there, enjoy your life no matter who has an opinion about it, and remember not all luxuries can be bought.
Until next time,